Saturday, July 21, 2012

Overcoming the tendency to blame others for our own failure's!

Dear Readers ,


All of us face situations in our lives where we fail or do not meet with the required level of success ! In such a situation how should we react and what should we learn from the situation so that we do not meet  with failure again?

A wonderful Quote from the Book in Hindi - Rishi Chintan Key Sannidhye Mein gives us many good pointers on how to overcome failure.

So let us read this short and wonderful excerpt :

"Many of us tend to blame other people for our own failures, individual weakness's and misfortunes. In situations where we have failed or not met with the required success, we often think of getting even with the other person / or settling a score. 
The process of settling a score is an un-ending process, where the one who is harmed will also subsequently  want to settle the score back with you. In this process at an individual level YOU will never benefit, so it’s best not to follow this path.

An individual’s personal success, failure or misfortune is always based on a person’s physical and mental abilities and his own individual strength of character.

When we try to build our success by suppressing another person, spreading bad rumors about them or by simply walking over another person; then this behavior on our part is reflective of our own internal weakness of mind and character (we demonstrate that we are a jealous, angry and an  insecure individual).
The individuals that are engaged in such small acts of vengeance find themselves losing all their strengths and abilities that they have built up over a period of time.
When the fires of jealousy and ill will keep burning inside the person for a long time they kill all the person’s individual bravery, enthusiasm and abilities to overcome difficult situations. 

We are each individually responsible for both the good and bad in our life. Let us not blame and malign other people for our individual life situations. Let us take responsibility for our own individual progress, deeds, thoughts and actions.

Additionally, when we are faced with situations that are difficult, adverse and beyond our control we should NOT spend time thinking about them and reflecting upon them over and over again.

If we have inadvertently created a situation which has caused harm, ill will or adversity to ourselves or some other, and now this situation is outside our control, then it is a mistake in ruminating and bereating ourselves continuously over the same.
Once the bow has left the arrow –nothing can really be done. It is best not to think about situations outside our control and be anxious about them.''

Rather we should just focus on analysing what went wrong with the situation and make sure that we learn from our mistakes , so that they do not occur again ...!

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Translated and adapted from page 186, of the book in Hindi - "Rishi Chintan Key Sannidhye mein".
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